Friday, May 21, 2010

How to Get What You Want

If you are struggling financially, can't get a woman to go out with you, or have other needs that aren't being met, you have to turn your needs into wants. You are much more likely to get something if you go after it instead of waiting around for a handout.

Years ago, I felt I needed a girlfriend really badly. When I approached a women, they often just wanted to "stay friends" even though I really tried my best to change that. Often when I would try to kiss a woman, she would turn away.

I then learned some social skills, started dating other women, boosted my confidence, and got myself in shape. Nowadays the situation has changed. Now I have several women who put me in the "friend" zone years ago now wanting to hook up. Presently, I can't say I know everything about attracting women, but I am a lot more knowledgeable in this area than I was in the past.

Guys, if you want to hook up with a woman, quit being needy. Don't beg a woman to be your girlfriend, don't call a woman excessively, and don't violate her comfort zone/touch her unless she is receptive. Instead, imagine yourself as a lady killer. Be spontaneous, funny, and have confidence. Women will pick up on that, and you will be on your way to being a bitch magnet.

Ladies, you can hook up with guys a lot easier than we can with you. However, when you act needy, you scare us off. For example, talking about getting married when you are in the relationship less than six months is a big no no. Instead, talk to your man about taking fun road trips together. Your new boyfriend will be much more receptive.

Besides attracting a partner, being less needy will help you attract money as well. Look at all the homeless/shady people that go to you begging for money. This just scares people off. These poor people should try other things instead. Here some suggestions:
  • Tell them a joke.
  • Play some music.
  • Tell people that you'll perform a stunt or mess with that snobby looking chick if you give them a dollar.
When I was in Hollywood, a black dude came up to me and said "How about a nice black looking dude like you help a poor white guy like me with some change?" I had a laugh and ended up giving him a dollar.

If you're broke, quit complaining about it. Instead, upgrade your skills so you can find a better job or start your own business. Find a way you can contribute. I've had quite a bit of financial struggles in the recent past. However, now that I am proactively networking myself and finding new ways to make money, my situation is improving every day.

When you are needy, you try to take stuff without giving anything back. The universe and people are resistant to this. To achieve your goals, contribute something of value and in due time you will be rewarded.

Let's take a couple of other examples of how needs and wants are different. 2 Live Crew has that song "HEY - we want some PUSSY". Because of that song, the members of 2 Live Crew got (and probably is still getting) a lot of poontang. If the song was called "HEY - I need to get laid, can a lady help me out please?", I don't think females would be as receptive.

Lady Antebellum also has a recent song called "Need You NOW". The lyrics go like this: "It's a quarter after one, I'm a little drunk and I need you now". If a woman said that in real life to me, and I had nothing else going on, I would probably go to her place and bang her. However, a female saying "I need you" sounds desperate and I would not be back for seconds. However, if a woman tells me "I want you" that is totally sexy. Ladies - who wants some help with writing a song?

John Griggs

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